And they sometimes do it with their its either the nanny of their kid or their helper or with the church member, so gross isn’t it? And to make it worst they don’t even have work to support their family or they don’t have that big salary to help with the house expenses, they only depend of their wives income so to survive and yet they still have the guts to do it.
When the time has come that their wives caught them, they would say the other girl should be the one to be blame because she made the first move. The wife of course will believe and would curse the other girl to death or make her life miserable by naming her names in public while in fact it is both her husband and the other girl’s fault. I am not saying that she will give up her family and leave her husband as that, of course she have to win him because she is the wife and they have kids. What I am saying is that it is maybe better to talk the problem with them alone and not putting the other one on shameful situation in public, we should not put all the blame to one side only but both party, the wife maybe so nagger that made her husband look for other girl so to regain his ego as a man or she may also had mistake that pushes her husband to do things sinful.
On the other hand, if I will be asked who would be blame, for me it is the guy because in the first place even the other girl made the first move, if he is firm enough to stay away from the temptation, the complication shall not happen this way. If he is loyal enough to his wife then issues like this could be avoided.
What makes you a pastor if you can’t avoid such temptation or let’s say your lust move you that’s why you courted the girl making her believe you truly love her, but when you are in front of your wife, you’re saying things against the girl, you are so evil! You know what? Life is not always on the right side; I know you would get your karma soon! I hope you could bear it.