What Not to Say Versus What to Say

I sometimes have difficulties in dealing my daughter, there are times I could not understand her tantrums and why couldn’t she do what I want her to do. Recently, I bought this book entitled ‚ÄúDealing Positively with Children by Corazon Ples Padilla, Ed. D and Rosario Ples Nem Singh, M.A.
I am not finish reading it yet, but I want to share to you what I think could help you to deal with your kids. Here’s some:
Don’t say to yourself :
  • I can’t stand my child’s defiance
Say:
  • I can stand my child’s need to be independent and make his own decisions.
Don’t say to yourself:
  • He makes me so angry I am afraid of what I might do to him.
Say:
  • I will not order him to cooperate. That only makes both of us angry.
Don’t say to yourself:
  • Why can’t you ever do what I say?
Say:
  • Let’s start getting ready now
Don’t say to yourself:
  • Don’t you say no to me, young man, or you’ll get a spanking
Say:
  • I understand, but there are times when we have to do things we don’t like.
Don’t say to yourself:
  • Wait until your father hears about how stubborn you are.
Say: (Play a game) I will count up to 10. Let’s see how fast you can do it. Ready, one, two…
Don’t say to yourself:
  • Darling, if you do what I say, I’ll give you a present.
Say:
  • Doing your homework will help a lot in your getting high marks in school.
Don’t say to yourself:
  • My child thinks he can take advantage of me
Say:
  • I understand how my child feels. I myself don’t always want to do things that I have to do.
Don’t say to yourself:
  • Do this or you’ll be sorry.
Say:
  • You can do this and have fun, or you can do it and be miserable. You decide.
I am not sure if I will be able to do those things, because every kid is unique, sometimes those tricks are not effective for them but I can try it right? Not one time though but one at a time and let’s see.

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